I’m almost done with my first two years of school, and so I’ve gotten the *pleasure* of dealing with a select few of the scary species of the college misogynist. They manage to disguise themselves as some activists and some just normal people. Also, they come in way too many shapes and sizes (including young women). The ones that I’d have to deal with aren’t great at covering it up. They speak about women like objects to have sex with, or someone to have on their arm. A woman to many of these people is a thing to buys drinks for. They speak up in classes about their opinions of women, some of which might not seem so twisted, but that’s the way they get to you.
I’ve managed to run into one specific one, that in front of a classroom full of majority women, decided it would be appropriate to talk about how rape culture is a myth. He droned on about how women didn't know how to take a compliment. He said that he wished more women would pay him more mind. His rhetoric was basically saying that any girl is lucky to even have him say anything to them, so the women should feel flattered or something. I didn't even know how to talk to him to the point that he’d understand: YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO MY ATTENTION. ESPECIALLY IF YOU’RE GOING TO OBJECTIFY ME.
If you are unfortunate and have to encounter any of these people, there are a few things I recommend. For one, for your own sanity, you could probably ignore him. If you’re like me, and sort of getting bothered by the very fact that he would even consider bringing this up in front of a group of mostly women, you could say something.
Fact is, that rape culture on college campuses is far from gone, but attitudes like this are something that makes rape culture rampant, to begin with. In a world where one in six women will be a victim to attempted or completed rape, and college being a place to learn first and foremost, we need to start talking to young misogynists to help change their attitudes, and hopefully, change college campuses, and soon enough the world.
Hey guys! So since I haven’t been posting lately, I thought my first post of the new year and my first post back would be a reintroduction, and also sort of how I was (properly and improperly) managing my stress this past semester.
Let me preface this with the fact that this past semester was the hardest one yet. I was taking many classes, one of which felt like a part time job. Not only that, but I also had an actual part time job. Keeping up with the schoolwork I had as well as my own personal work was kind of a hard decision, only because it came down to giving up something I loved doing, blogging.
So what could I possibly do this semester to help?
For one, I think getting back to journaling will help. I started a thirty day journaling challenge, mostly because I realized I wasn’t writing, and I love writing, so making space for myself to do so is good for me. My notebook is that space right now. Being able to reflect, even if it’s only a few sentences a day, is important to ground myself in the day to day.
Another journaling thing is the fact that I love taking the time to do it at all. It’s a time to step away and sort of just work on yourself for a bit. With the chaos of school and work, sometimes self care isn’t the easiest thing to fit in, but I feel like the few minutes a day of reflection is a good place to start.
For the coming semester, I can promise myself that I will aim to have less stress and aim to handle the stress I do have in a healthy, effective way. What do you do for management of stress, whether or not it's college involved or not?