Because I’ve been writing this blog for about a year now, I’ve seen many different opinions about feminism and being proud to be a woman. A popular one that I see on the internet is the thought that feminism is no longer needed. Many people that feel this way are women.
The internalized misogyny in every woman is something we need to work towards changing. The first step to spreading feminist ideals is to end misogynistic ideals in women. Because to spread love, you first have to learn to love yourself. And I’m not saying any of that is easy. I’m just saying it needs to happen.
Everything in the US, and many other countries, is influenced by misogyny and/or feminism in some way. While misogyny is a bad concept, is spreads like wildfire when it is fed. The end to misogyny starts with teaching young people that every life is valued, and should be valued equally.
In women, misogyny shows itself in ways we wouldn’t necessarily recognize. For example, some of my family still thinks I’m going to be marrying a man, when I’ve come out to them countless times. This form of misogyny can creep up on you because it’s not necessarily always considered misogyny. It’s misogyny because they refuse to recognize that I [hopefully] will be marrying a nice girl, and that doesn’t fit into their standards of what a young woman does. This also just makes me doubt myself, and doubt my love for someone. It affects everyone differently, but there’s a little bit in all of us. And we need to fix it. So let’s start that together.
What’s something that you’ve noticed some women saying that could be internalized misogyny?
Most, if not all of the readers on my blog, have probably been through a sex education class in their lives. And I think we can all remember some of the most awkward parts, like having to answer questions about periods when someone asked, or learning “how sex works”. Let it be said that sex education classes are not comprehensive enough as-is to teach all types of people; but that’s not what we’re here for.
One thing that was never talked about in my sex education classes was consent. And if you ask me, it’s one of the most important parts, if not the most important part. When learning about sex for the first time in an educational setting, it would be important to recognize the most essential part of sex, consent. But why, you may ask?
While sexual assaults against women has gone down over the last ten years, it is still something that is affecting many people. One in six women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. On top of that, about one tenth of sexual assault victims are men.
The issues here take more to solve than just teaching consent in sex education. But ultimately, we need to be teaching young people how to have sex safely and legally, rather than just showing them anatomy. By teaching consent in schools, it could bring the numbers of sexual assault down, which would be a good thing for everyone.
While sex work is still a controversial topic, it is becoming more and more relevant. I recently saw an article about a young woman who was being trafficked on a flight with her abuser. While this is often the story that is publicized about sex work, it is not the only one.
Within the sex industry, there are so many different careers. The industry is a vast one, and many people underestimate it. So many people have ideas about sex workers that just straight up aren’t true, or that are seriously misinformed. (Now let it be said, I’m not saying I know everything about it either).
The misconceptions of the sex industry are usually something like “they are being held against their will” or “they don't want to be doing sex work, but they have to to make money”. I can't say every situation is the same, but some of the times, these are not true.
Many people in sex work want to be there, and love what they are doing as a job. They are doing it because they want to. Another misconception about sex is that it is all illegal. While some of it might be, not all of it is. Considering sex work is a vast industry, anything from prostitution to exotic dancing.
Overall, I think though, we need to start working on ending the stigma surrounding sex work, as well as the violence the workers themselves experience. Yes, sex work might be a risky job, but no one deserves violence against them, especially at work. Altogether, we are all humans, and all humans deserve respect, no matter their career choice.
I will be the first to admit that sometimes, the Kardashians are everywhere when sometimes you just want to be alone. It feels like you can't get away from them at every social media turn you take. While there are many things thrown at the Kardashians, I ultimately think Kim Kardashian is a good example of a feminist.
For one, she’s given a lot of crap for flaunting what she has. What ultimately makes her a feminist is the fact that she continues to be who she wants. Often times she is scrutinized by the public as being too sexual, but what she’s honestly doing is being who she wants.
The Kardashians, while managing to haunt every corner of entertainment, know what they’re doing. Not only does sex sell, but in a day where activism is a great marketing tool, being confident is it’s own form of feminism.
As Pride month is coming to a close, I have noticed that this year, more than other years, came out more trans-exclusive. This is ultimately our faults. We need to work towards real inclusivity during pride, including all of the intersections of any person.
In order to understand trans-exclusion in recent prides, we should look back at who started it all. The Stonewall Riots were located at the Stonewall Inn, a then very famous gay club in New York. Some of the very influential people on that day were black trans women.
Marsha P. Johnson was an all-over activist, fighting for trans rights, HIV/AIDS activism, and many other important issues of the time. While pride these days seems to be overly populated by white cis (cisgender: identifying with the sex you were assigned at birth) gay males, we need to continue to remember and honor our history, as some of the greatest unsung heroes were anything but white, cis, and gay.
Marsha P. Johnson is one of the most famous Stonewall heroes, but she is not the only one. Please, learn about the history of pride and learn about the people that started it all. We need to learn about these people so that we can learn how to have a pride that is intersectional and representational.
With the MTV Movie Awards behind us, and many more award shows having already happened, the idea of representation is something that comes into the public eye every award season. While this year was a good one for POC and LGBTQ+ plots and characters, there is still a long way to go.
Being LGBTQ+ has gotten easier in today’s world, but it’s still not easy. With the current administration, much of the LGBTQ+ community is scared. This is why representation matters.
By including LGBTQ+ people, people of color, and differently abled people in the media, we set good representation and give people role models. Young people are involved in technology now more than ever, and it’s important that we show them positive people that resemble them doing great things. We need to show them they can be the hero rather than the sidekick. So many young people are left without role models in the media because someone who looks like them isn’t cast. Let’s change that.
With feminism being controversial these days, many people wonder why they should be a feminist or what being a feminist even means. And the answer to those questions, my friends, are nobody else’s but yours to answer. But what I can tell you is why I became a feminist, and why I think it’s a great movement for all people, not just straight white women.
For one, I think all feminism is supposed to be intersectional. Now what is intersectional feminism, you may ask? Well, intersectional feminism (in my is a version of feminism that recognizes that in order to look at and support one part of ourselves (ie our gender), we must look at and support all parts of ourselves (ie gender, sexuality, race + more). By thinking of feminism from an intersectional point of view, we can see that this version of feminism can benefit all people.
My version of feminism is unique and so is everyone else’s, but I am a strong believer that the movement itself should be trying to bring everyone upwards. And for the most part, my community of feminists are. But there still are the occasional people who have different versions of feminism (which I will say, are still all valid).
With my version of feminism, it’s all about having the world community grow as a whole, not necessarily focusing on only one group, and by working together, we can get a lot further in life. I think this mindset is great for all people, because in the long run, working together and pulling each other up is better than pushing each other down.
Now, I think I can confidently say we all have some sort of girl crushes, whether for physical attributes or cool stuff they are doing. And I have many!!! So here’s a list of awesome women who I TOTALLY LOVE!!!
So, who’s your girl crush? Why?