I’m almost done with my first two years of school, and so I’ve gotten the *pleasure* of dealing with a select few of the scary species of the college misogynist. They manage to disguise themselves as some activists and some just normal people. Also, they come in way too many shapes and sizes (including young women). The ones that I’d have to deal with aren’t great at covering it up. They speak about women like objects to have sex with, or someone to have on their arm. A woman to many of these people is a thing to buys drinks for. They speak up in classes about their opinions of women, some of which might not seem so twisted, but that’s the way they get to you.
I’ve managed to run into one specific one, that in front of a classroom full of majority women, decided it would be appropriate to talk about how rape culture is a myth. He droned on about how women didn't know how to take a compliment. He said that he wished more women would pay him more mind. His rhetoric was basically saying that any girl is lucky to even have him say anything to them, so the women should feel flattered or something. I didn't even know how to talk to him to the point that he’d understand: YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO MY ATTENTION. ESPECIALLY IF YOU’RE GOING TO OBJECTIFY ME.
If you are unfortunate and have to encounter any of these people, there are a few things I recommend. For one, for your own sanity, you could probably ignore him. If you’re like me, and sort of getting bothered by the very fact that he would even consider bringing this up in front of a group of mostly women, you could say something.
Fact is, that rape culture on college campuses is far from gone, but attitudes like this are something that makes rape culture rampant, to begin with. In a world where one in six women will be a victim to attempted or completed rape, and college being a place to learn first and foremost, we need to start talking to young misogynists to help change their attitudes, and hopefully, change college campuses, and soon enough the world.